Saturday, November 27, 2010
Thanksgiving Re-cap
With Thanksgiving over, left over’s eaten, family now gone, and life somewhat back to normal for the next few weeks, until it’s time to gear up for Christmas, I thought that I would update you all on everything.
Well, as most of you know, because we would have shared the news if it had happened, we did not receive a referral by Thanksgiving like we were hoping and praying for. We realize that it is all in God’s hands and we will be introduced to Zoe when he is ready for us to be. So we are now praying that, that is the one gift that we get for Christmas!! Please join us in praying it is the right time. But we have found out that we are getting closer on the list to being at the top. Our agency doesn't give out "numbers" to tell you how many families are ahead of you, but I annoy them so much I think they told me one to get me to leave them alone. I can't say what number it is, but I will tell you it is in the single digests! So PRAY, PRAY, PRAY !
As some of you know, KC and I have some interesting ‘characters’ in our family and surprisingly I was only confronted by a few of them on Thanksgiving about the adoption. So needless to say it was a great day! I am posting some pictures of the day. Olivia finally got to meet my Granny. She is my dad’s mother and she turned 99 this year. We truly are blessed to still have her in our lives. She is full of so much spunk and wisdom.
So while we didn’t get our referral there is still SO much to be thankful for this year.
There is also a picture of me and my brothers and sisters with our Granny. Then the one at the top of the post is of everyone in my family, as in brothers, sisters, and their families – so not including aunts, uncles or cousins.
until later -
j.w. godwin
Monday, November 15, 2010
Being thankful...
As we all get ready to start one of the most wonderful times of the year there are SO many things that each of us could be thankful for. Just in the last year KC and I have been blessed with Olivia Claire, we have dealt with some tough times, some good times, and yet we all still have the things that are really the important things in life - our health, our family and our faith.
This afternoon after I got off work KC and I rushed to church to try to get there in time to help one of our friends with her "project." Stephanie is in charge of the Operation Christmas Child drop off center that has been assigned at our church. It isn't just the drop off center for our church though, it is for all of the churches in the area. She is doing an AMAZING job! But as I walked into the church tonight I was taken back by how many boxes there were. I stood and looked at the hundreds of boxes still empty that will be filled later this week and it made me realize that each of those big boxes can hold fourteen 'shoe boxes' inside of them. That is a TON of presents. Just think, every one of those tiny shoe boxes will be handed to a child somewhere in the world for Christmas. For most of them this will be the only thing that they receive and how simple it is. KC and I put together a few boxes and it only cost about $15.00 per box. $15.00 is going to give some kid the most awesome gift they have gotten all year. I guess standing next to a few empty boxes really couldn't register with you, unless you then realize that all of those boxes are waiting to be filled to help Santa out with all of his deliveries.
So this year as we all get ready to spend time with our families and be thankful for everything that we have all been so blessed with, remember those who aren't as luck as us.
Also, one prayer that KC and I have been praying is that we receive our referral by Thanksgiving. We know that it is only about a week away, and the possibility of that happening is very low. We have recently had some people even tell us not to get our hopes up, and we understand that... but through Jesus Christ anything is possible, and if you don't believe that, read the post before this one.
Every year at Thanksgiving we stand in a HUGE circle at my parents house and hold hands to pray before we eat. Before we do so we all have an opportunity to tell the entire family any 'news' that we may have. We usually have someone saying that they are either getting married or are pregnant or whatever. Well this year KC and I want to 'introduce' our newest daughter to her new family through a picture. When we told a few people that we were adopting it spread like wild fire, so they all already know that, but we think it would help make it more 'real' for everyone if we had a picture of Zoe rather than just an idea of a person.
So over the next week, when you take a moment to thank God for all that you have been thankful for, if you have any free time ask him if it is possible for us to meet our daughter soon... even if it is just in a picture. That truly would make this Thanksgiving even more to be thankful for.
until later -
j.w. godwin
This afternoon after I got off work KC and I rushed to church to try to get there in time to help one of our friends with her "project." Stephanie is in charge of the Operation Christmas Child drop off center that has been assigned at our church. It isn't just the drop off center for our church though, it is for all of the churches in the area. She is doing an AMAZING job! But as I walked into the church tonight I was taken back by how many boxes there were. I stood and looked at the hundreds of boxes still empty that will be filled later this week and it made me realize that each of those big boxes can hold fourteen 'shoe boxes' inside of them. That is a TON of presents. Just think, every one of those tiny shoe boxes will be handed to a child somewhere in the world for Christmas. For most of them this will be the only thing that they receive and how simple it is. KC and I put together a few boxes and it only cost about $15.00 per box. $15.00 is going to give some kid the most awesome gift they have gotten all year. I guess standing next to a few empty boxes really couldn't register with you, unless you then realize that all of those boxes are waiting to be filled to help Santa out with all of his deliveries.
So this year as we all get ready to spend time with our families and be thankful for everything that we have all been so blessed with, remember those who aren't as luck as us.
Also, one prayer that KC and I have been praying is that we receive our referral by Thanksgiving. We know that it is only about a week away, and the possibility of that happening is very low. We have recently had some people even tell us not to get our hopes up, and we understand that... but through Jesus Christ anything is possible, and if you don't believe that, read the post before this one.
Every year at Thanksgiving we stand in a HUGE circle at my parents house and hold hands to pray before we eat. Before we do so we all have an opportunity to tell the entire family any 'news' that we may have. We usually have someone saying that they are either getting married or are pregnant or whatever. Well this year KC and I want to 'introduce' our newest daughter to her new family through a picture. When we told a few people that we were adopting it spread like wild fire, so they all already know that, but we think it would help make it more 'real' for everyone if we had a picture of Zoe rather than just an idea of a person.
So over the next week, when you take a moment to thank God for all that you have been thankful for, if you have any free time ask him if it is possible for us to meet our daughter soon... even if it is just in a picture. That truly would make this Thanksgiving even more to be thankful for.
until later -
j.w. godwin
Prayers answered !
The post before this one was about a couple here in town who is adopting a baby girl from Uganda - Amelia. They were the first couple that KC and I met and talked to at Saint James UMC and by meeting them we finally had the courage to take our leap of faith to adopt. Well on behalf of them to all of you who prayed for them – THANK YOU ! Rachel sent me this message earlier today and I have to share it.
“Four years ago, God whispered to my heart that I would have children who did not come from my body… and He placed within me an unquenchable love for my future babies.
Our daughter Caroline came the old fashioned way… our sweet surprise! Then in 2009, we answered God’s calling by beginning our process to bring Amelia home. Nearly two years, 57 photographs, and five major adoption delays later, we realize that this adoption is in God’s control, and that only His miraculous hands can bring our daughter home.
Make no mistake. Amelia is already our daughter, even if it is not yet the case legally. God planned her for us since the foundations of the earth. While untold obstacles continue to stand in the way of our getting to her, we KNOW that God has already won the victory. The body of Christ is coming together in prayer now, and miracles are already happening.
God has a special heart for adoption. Over two hundred years ago, Jesus laid down His life to pay the costly fee for our own adoption into the family of God. Our Father knows and loves the beauty of adoption. He longs for us to come to Him in the same way that our family longs for Amelia to come home to us. He will be victorious.
Please be a part of the miracle. Please be blessed to join us in praying, fasting, and fighting spiritual warfare for our precious Amelia. Join the fight, and see God move mountains. We know that God wants others to see His beauty and might through Amelia’s story. Please cry out to God with us, and we will all watch in awe as our Mighty Savior moves.”
Rachel also sent a message to several of us this morning and it said –
“Our Ugandan attorney called to ask if we'd like him to file our case. We said YES!!!! Here is how you can continue to pray! Please see specific prayer requests below:
1.) That our official documents arrive in Uganda through the mail system at WARP speed.
ANSWERED! God TRULY used "warp speed"!!
2.) That our Ugandan attorney feel an URGENCY for our case and attempt to file as soon as he has our documents.
Sounds like this is being answered, please pray that he follows through!!!
3.) That the courts are still accepting new cases once our documents arrive, even though it will be close to the holidays.
4.) That we are miraculously granted a court date and are able to travel AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, hopefully December!!!”
So there we have it people. We need to start at steps 2 and go through 4. Most of you are in the same boat as KC and I - you are adopting a baby and that is one of the reasons you read our blog. Well one thing that KC and I have learned through our adoption process is that we are all here for each other, even people we have never met. As brothers and sisters in Christ it is our responsibility at moments like this to pray for others and help them through their “tough” moments. People who aren’t adopting sometimes have a difficult time understanding how emotional it can be to know that you have a baby somewhere out there and there is nothing you can do to get to him or her home any quicker. TRUST me – if there were any way Amelia and Zoe Grace would both already be home. I am reminded of Matthew 25:35-40 that says – “35 For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, 36 I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ 37 Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? 38 And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? 39 And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ 40 And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’”
Even though we all may not know each other, we all have a common bond. We are to help those least among us, as well as those we don't even know. Thank you ALL for your prayers for Rachel and Brad as well as for KC and I. We ALL appreciate them so much – and keep them coming.
Zoe Grace update: I am working on a post about that, I just had to go ahead and put this one up today so that everyone could celebrate with us their good news! More about Zoe to follow…
until later -
j.w. godwin
“Four years ago, God whispered to my heart that I would have children who did not come from my body… and He placed within me an unquenchable love for my future babies.
Our daughter Caroline came the old fashioned way… our sweet surprise! Then in 2009, we answered God’s calling by beginning our process to bring Amelia home. Nearly two years, 57 photographs, and five major adoption delays later, we realize that this adoption is in God’s control, and that only His miraculous hands can bring our daughter home.
Make no mistake. Amelia is already our daughter, even if it is not yet the case legally. God planned her for us since the foundations of the earth. While untold obstacles continue to stand in the way of our getting to her, we KNOW that God has already won the victory. The body of Christ is coming together in prayer now, and miracles are already happening.
God has a special heart for adoption. Over two hundred years ago, Jesus laid down His life to pay the costly fee for our own adoption into the family of God. Our Father knows and loves the beauty of adoption. He longs for us to come to Him in the same way that our family longs for Amelia to come home to us. He will be victorious.
Please be a part of the miracle. Please be blessed to join us in praying, fasting, and fighting spiritual warfare for our precious Amelia. Join the fight, and see God move mountains. We know that God wants others to see His beauty and might through Amelia’s story. Please cry out to God with us, and we will all watch in awe as our Mighty Savior moves.”
Rachel also sent a message to several of us this morning and it said –
“Our Ugandan attorney called to ask if we'd like him to file our case. We said YES!!!! Here is how you can continue to pray! Please see specific prayer requests below:
1.) That our official documents arrive in Uganda through the mail system at WARP speed.
ANSWERED! God TRULY used "warp speed"!!
2.) That our Ugandan attorney feel an URGENCY for our case and attempt to file as soon as he has our documents.
Sounds like this is being answered, please pray that he follows through!!!
3.) That the courts are still accepting new cases once our documents arrive, even though it will be close to the holidays.
4.) That we are miraculously granted a court date and are able to travel AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, hopefully December!!!”
So there we have it people. We need to start at steps 2 and go through 4. Most of you are in the same boat as KC and I - you are adopting a baby and that is one of the reasons you read our blog. Well one thing that KC and I have learned through our adoption process is that we are all here for each other, even people we have never met. As brothers and sisters in Christ it is our responsibility at moments like this to pray for others and help them through their “tough” moments. People who aren’t adopting sometimes have a difficult time understanding how emotional it can be to know that you have a baby somewhere out there and there is nothing you can do to get to him or her home any quicker. TRUST me – if there were any way Amelia and Zoe Grace would both already be home. I am reminded of Matthew 25:35-40 that says – “35 For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, 36 I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ 37 Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? 38 And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? 39 And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ 40 And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’”
Even though we all may not know each other, we all have a common bond. We are to help those least among us, as well as those we don't even know. Thank you ALL for your prayers for Rachel and Brad as well as for KC and I. We ALL appreciate them so much – and keep them coming.
Zoe Grace update: I am working on a post about that, I just had to go ahead and put this one up today so that everyone could celebrate with us their good news! More about Zoe to follow…
until later -
j.w. godwin
Monday, November 1, 2010
Prayers needed!
Attention to all friends and family -
We have some very close friends who are adopting a little girl from a different country. They were referred their sweet baby girl back this summer and you could tell the moment that they saw her precious face that she was their child and they had a parents heart for her. They have been going through so much in their process and keep getting "pushed back." They continue to stay strong and show what a "true" parents strength is like. Their love for their child is just as strong as if she was a biological child.
Please keep them in your prayers and thoughts. As KC & I wait for our picture of Zoe, I couldn't imagine getting a picture of her and then not being able to go get her! Talk about a heart ache!
So please keep them in your thoughts and prayers. It has to be tough, but we know that God is and will continue to help them and their baby.
Until later -
j.w. godwin
We have some very close friends who are adopting a little girl from a different country. They were referred their sweet baby girl back this summer and you could tell the moment that they saw her precious face that she was their child and they had a parents heart for her. They have been going through so much in their process and keep getting "pushed back." They continue to stay strong and show what a "true" parents strength is like. Their love for their child is just as strong as if she was a biological child.
Please keep them in your prayers and thoughts. As KC & I wait for our picture of Zoe, I couldn't imagine getting a picture of her and then not being able to go get her! Talk about a heart ache!
So please keep them in your thoughts and prayers. It has to be tough, but we know that God is and will continue to help them and their baby.
Until later -
j.w. godwin
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
"A very special Christmas Story"
Jimmy B. Pool Written Christmas, 2003.
Christmas came early for us in 2003. On November 11, my wife Carol and I returned from Russia with Elaine Sorrell Pool, born November 1, 2002. The adoption was complete and little “Ellie” was home!
Ellie is the granddaughter of the late Fred and Sorrell Pool of Roanoke. Ellie is named after Sorrell and her other grandmother, Elaine Walton of Selma.
In July of 2002, we began the adoption process with a trip to Villa Hope, an adoption agency in Birmingham, Alabama. Originally, we considered adopting from China, but at the time, the SARS epidemic was spreading around the world from that region and getting in and out of that country was extremely difficult. The case worker at Villa Hope recommended that we consider a Russian child. It sounded good to us, and the process began.
There was a great deal of paperwork to complete, home studies of our home in Montgomery conducted, and clearances by local , state, and federal agencies obtained. The final paperwork was submitted to Russia in the Spring of 2003.
In August, we received word that we had a “referral,” meaning that the adoption agency in Russia had matched us up with a child. We were given a video tape and medical records on the girl. This tape and the records were reviewed by a pediatrician in Montgomery who specializes in medical care for internationally adopted children and also by a physician at The International Adoption Clinic located at UAB Hospital. The doctors’ opinion was that Ellie was doing fine considering she was premature and had been in an orphanage for seven months.
Soon thereafter, we were informed that there was going to be a change in the government hierarchy in Kazan’ Russia where Ellie lived. The agency needed to speed things up, and a court date was set for October 28. If we didn’t come over before then it would be well into 2004 before we could get Ellie, and in all likelihood, we would have to travel to Russia twice to complete the adoption.
Many arrangements had to be made. Carol had to ask for 3 months leave from work. I had to arrange for my law practice to be “put on hold” until late November. Carol’s boss, Claude McCartney of Southern Union, was very accommodating and shared the excitement of the impending addition to the Pool family. Clients, fellow lawyers, my partner Johnnie Smith, my legal assistant Becky Moulton and the local judges bent over backwards to make the adjustments for me, and all of my court work was postponed. Finally, visas to visit Russia had to be obtained from the Russian government.
Fortunately for us, we had saved Delta frequent flyer miles for many years, and were able to redeem them for First class round trip tickets. Delta also offered a huge discount for the return flight for adopting couples, only requiring that we have tickets ourselves, and pay the taxes on an extra ticket for the baby. The baby does not have a seat on the plane, so it’s very good we had first class tickets, because Ellie had to ride in our laps. Cramped coach seats would have been a nightmare for the 3 hour flight from Moscow to Paris and the 9 hour flight from Paris to Atlanta.
On the afternoon of October 19, we drove to Atlanta and left for Russia. There was a brief layover in Paris, then a connecting flight on Air France to Moscow. We really liked the food on the Air France flight, I declared it “the finest food I’ve ever gotten on an airline.”
It took a total of 13 hours to get to Moscow, arriving at 6:00 p.m., local time on the 20th. Moscow is nine hours ahead of Montgomery, meaning when it is noon in Alabama, its already 9:00 p.m. that day in Moscow. Customs check-in was totally uneventful, the stoic Russian soldiers methodically stamping the passports and visa papers with hardly a nod at each person coming through.
The first glimpse of Russia was at night, but Moscow is a big city with lots of lights, and very Westernized. Advertisements for American goods are everywhere, but everything else is in Russian. There is much legalized gambling in Russia, with video poker parlors scattered throughout the country. The Russian language is very hard, made harder because their alphabet is not even the same as the one used by English, French, German, Italian, Portuguese, and many others.
In downtown Moscow, up the street from the Kremlin and Red Square, is the Marriott Grand, a very luxurious hotel with everything one could get in the USA, except that of the 150 television stations on the “satellite”, only a handful were in English. We later found out that the TV in Kazan’ was even worse, with only 3 stations in English; Euronews, BBC News, and MSNBCEurope.
At a hotel registration in Russia, one must first surrender his or her passport, which is necessary for the hotel to register the visitor with the government, and after about an hour, the passport is returned.
On Tuesday, the 21st, we met Victoria, a lovely 26 year old Russian girl, who would be our coordinator and guide in Moscow. Victoria works for WorldChild, the adoption agency which partners with VillaHope, and has offices in Moscow, Falls Creek, Virginia, and other places around the globe. Victoria spoke perfect English, having graduated from the University in Moscow with a degree in English. She was a proud Muscovite, and extremely knowledgeable about the history, tourist sites, and shopping bazaars in the city.
Mixed in with more voluminous last-minute paperwork, we toured Moscow for 2 days, seeing the Kremlin, Red Square, Gum, Russia’s tomb of the unknown soldier, and many other sights. Gum, the huge mall adjacent to Red Square proved to be a delightful shopping experience. And I bought a fur hat from a street vendor, who insisted on being paid in American money, $20.00 for the rabbit hat.
On Wednesday night, the 22nd, we met Natasha, also with the agency, who would accompany us to Kazan’. Natasha’s English paled in comparison to Victoria’s, but was understandable. The next night we boarded an Aeroflot airliner, for the 1 ½ hour flight to Kazan’. The food was not good on Aeroflot, and some of it was a complete mystery.
The Kazan’ airport is cold, dark, and stark. There is not a carousel for luggage. The restrooms are like indoor outhouses, and there are hardly any signs giving directions. Natasha led us off the plane, through the “terminal”, and to the drivers, Alex and Alex, two young Russian men who were drivers for the agency. Alex #1 spoke pretty good English, and provided some insights into Kazan’, Alex #2 did neither.
The drive into Kazan’ was somewhat unnerving. The roads are narrow, hardly lit, and for the most part, unmarked. In Kazan’, about 30 minutes from the airport, it wasn’t much better. It is a cold and sad city. Interestingly, Kazan’ will celebrate 1000 years of existence in 2 years, while Moscow is only 800 years old. Lots of Kazan’ showed the antiquity of the city. There is construction going on in Kazan’, but also lots of desolation and destruction.
We stayed at the Guiseppe Hotel. Mr. Guiseppe is Cicilian, and many times we wondered how on earth a Sicilian got 500 miles into the heart of Russia, and had a hotel to boot. Guiseppe is loud, friendly, and thoroughly likeable, and a terrific cook, as we later learned.
Accommodations were nice, though dated. The hotel room was very large, with a sitting room with a full sized refrigerator, living, dining, and bedroom combination, and a full bath with a shower and a tub. In one corner of the bathroom was another piece of equipment, baffling us. At first, I thought it was a bidet. On close examination, there was a hot and cold spigot, and a drain plug. Later, we found out that the commode looking fixture was for foot-washing!
The clerks in the hotel spoke broken English. In the adjacent Guiseppe Pizza Parlor, only one person in 19 days in Kazan’ spoke English.
On Thursday, October 25, we finally got to meet Ellie. The trip was a 30 minute ride in the BMW belonging to Alex #1. Alex also had a small Russian hatchback, which would travel better in icy conditions, which we soon learned, would be necessary. The trip to the orphanage was very depressing. The citizens there lead hard lives, are for the most part very poor, and most don’t smile. The streets are dirty and poorly maintained.
Orphanage #2 in Kazan holds 100 children under the age of 4. The orphanage was bleak to say the least. Ellie was in room #8 of 10 rooms. Every piece of clothing on her had an “8" embroidered on it. The children stay bundled up in 4 or 5 layers of clothes. The caretakers are pleasant, but with 1 or 2 caretakers for 10 children, individual attention is at a minimum for each child. Ellie had an engaging smile, and our hearts rose when we saw her. She came to us, we hugged her, and it was love at first sight. She’s teething so she flashed a toothy grin. We hugged her and talked to her and played with a stuffed animal. The hour flew by. Off we went in our car back to the hotel. We had free time until 4:00 when we went back to the orphanage. In the afternoon, we got to visit for 1 ½ hours. The 1/2 hour ride to and from the orphanage twice a day was played out almost daily until Ellie was released to us on November 8.
On Saturday, October 25, we awoke to a huge snowstorm which prohibited travel. The streets were passable the next day, and thereafter. The streets of Kazan’ are treacherous. Traveling them was worth it every day, because each day we became more and more attached to Ellie and the time allowed us for the visits seemed so short. At lunch and in the evenings, we walked the streets of Kazan’. There’s not much to see and do there, the food in the restaurants is nothing spectacular, and the language barrier prohibited much improvisation. Only 2 restaurants had English menus, and their cuisine soon got old after a few visits.
Court was set on October 28. We went with Natalya, a social worker, and we had an interpreter. He was very nice, and tried to give us some pointers on Russian courts. The Judge called the case, we went in the room, and had the most unpleasant experience of our trip. We were treated very rudely and harshly. He had the authority to waive the “10-day waiting period.” He denied the request, even though our local pediatricians had advised that we get Ellie examined as soon as possible. As a result, instead of bringing Ellie home on November 3, we couldn’t come home until the 11th. We were offered the option of coming back home at the end of October, and coming back for Ellie. Carol and I decided that we would not leave Russia without her.
Each day brought us a little closer to coming home, and a lot closer to our daughter. We got news that we could get Ellie on the 8th. Guiseppe decided to throw a party on Thursday night. He started off with pasta, which he made with salmon and 2 kinds of caviar. Then we had a delicious salad. The main course was a shish kabob of 5 kinds of fish and shrimp, presented beautifully. Finally, we were presented with a beautiful desert with Italian ice creams, nuts and cookies. Guiseppe opened several bottles of Sicilian Chardonnay, which complemented the meal perfectly. It was a nice celebration to end our long stay in Kazan’.
Finally, on Friday, November 8, we went to the orphanage for the final time. We took an outfit for Ellie, and the gifts for the caretakers, the administrator, the doctors in the orphanage, and some more folks that I can’t remember.
Ellie was handed to us the same way she came into this world, naked, innocent, and beautiful. We dressed her and took the ride back to the hotel. She did great! She accompanied us to Guiseppe’s restaurant, sat like a sweet little girl, slept all night, and woke up in a strange new world with a smile on her face and our hearts in her hand.
The next evening, we took the drive to the airport. Ellie slept all of the way. We boarded a plane with letters I don’t remember, but it wasn’t Aeroflot. Ellie never whimpered, and the take-off and landing didn’t seem to bother her, we gave her a bottle each time to help with the evening of the pressure in her ears.
We got to Moscow late at night, drove to the Marriott Grand, and welcomed Ellie to the Western world of bright lights, fancy dining rooms, and opulence fit for a queen...compared to the orphanage she had been in since she was 2 months old.
The next day we again toured Moscow, and took pictures of Ellie in Red Square. They were forwarded home and made part of a three part article in The Montgomery Independent. Ellie had become something of a local celebrity in Montgomery.
On the morning of the 10th, we went to the United States Embassy to get Ellie’s visa. She would not be a U.S. citizen until her feet touched the ground in the USA, even though the adoption was complete in Russia, and we were her parents. The most uplifting time of the trip occurred at the Embassy. There is an entire wing of the building devoted solely to adoptions. In the 30 minute time frame we were there, two dozen American families were there with their babies getting visas to bring their children home, and it goes on for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week! Besides all speaking English, a great sensation for us, it is uncanny how much each child resembled one or both of their parents. Of course, I’m convinced Ellie looks like me. If she is as lovely as my wife, her mother, either grandmother, or my sister Freddie, she’ll be a knockout.
On the morning of the 11th, we got up at 3:00 a.m., went to the airport, through customs, and boarded the Air France back to Paris. That trip is 3 hours long. All on the plane oohed and ahhed. Ellie responded with her intoxicating smile.
After a short layover in Paris, we boarded the Boeing 777 for the 9 hour flight to Atlanta. During the flight, Ellie took a couple of bottles, took a few naps, and during some of the slightly fussy moments, got paraded around the plane. All in all, we thought she did fine. In fact, there were other small children on the plane, some newly adopted, and Carol and I felt that “our baby was the best behaved.” No bias there, simply a fact.
Carol videotaped Ellie’s little feet as I placed them on the floor at Hartsfield Airport...now she was officially a U.S. citizen! It took about an hour to go through customs with Ellie. All of our papers were in perfect order, and we loaded Ellie into our Yukon XL for the drive back to Montgomery. For the first time in her life, Ellie was placed in a car seat. No one wears a seat belt in Russia, much less a car seat for infants. Shortly after she was strapped in the seat, Ellie fell fast asleep, which she does now, within 5 minutes of getting in the car seat.
During the 2 hour drive back to Montgomery, we made calls to her 2 grandmothers, Sorrell and Elaine; Freddie and Tommy Hill; and our friends in Montgomery. All were thrilled for us.
When we drove up in the driveway in Ellie’s new home, a dozen friends were in the yard cheering and taking pictures. A large banner had been placed in the front, “Welcome home little Elaine “Ellie” Sorrell Pool, and there were pink bows and teddy bears all around.
I took Ellie out of the car seat, she looked around at all of these total strangers, and held her arms out to her maternal grandmother, Elaine, who held her for the next hour, not surrendering her to anyone. We had been up for almost 30 hours, and were totally exhausted.
A few days later, we were able to present Ellie to her paternal grandmother. She took to her immediately, and enjoyed taking a bottle from her and being held. Grandma Pool beamed with delight, and was so proud of her 5th, and latest grandchild, to add to her family, which now includes 10 great-grandchildren.
Thanksgiving was wild in Roanoke. Thirty-five family members had traditional dinner in Roanoke in the Pool house. Sorrell presided over her family, and Elaine came as usual, since she is so much a part of the family. All of her grandchildren were there with their spouses, and 6 of the 10 great-grandchildren. My aunt, Sarah Wood and all of her family also came, as is tradition on Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving dinner turned into a huge baby shower for Ellie, as she was showered with gifts from her family. We had so much for which to be thankful. Thanks be to God Almighty!
Ellie is now a thoroughly modern American girl. She has been to Wal-Mart, Target, Bruno’s, the malls, 3 Auburn basketball games, and has been held by Santa and Aubie. When her picture was made with Aubie, she turned back around and wanted to go back to him and give him another hug! The pediatricians say she is making up for lost ground at record pace, and is gaining weight the way she should. She is currently on three bottles of formula per day, laced with vitamins and iron, and each spiked with a serving of Carnation Instant Breakfast for the calories and added nutrition.
Ellie’s now looking forward to Christmas, and so are we. There are so many children overseas who have little or no chance in life unless they are adopted. More should consider adoption if they need to complete or add to their family. Our dreams and prayers have been answered, and now our family is complete. Merry Christmas to all!
*Excerpts from the family journal
until later -
j.w. godwin
Christmas came early for us in 2003. On November 11, my wife Carol and I returned from Russia with Elaine Sorrell Pool, born November 1, 2002. The adoption was complete and little “Ellie” was home!
Ellie is the granddaughter of the late Fred and Sorrell Pool of Roanoke. Ellie is named after Sorrell and her other grandmother, Elaine Walton of Selma.
In July of 2002, we began the adoption process with a trip to Villa Hope, an adoption agency in Birmingham, Alabama. Originally, we considered adopting from China, but at the time, the SARS epidemic was spreading around the world from that region and getting in and out of that country was extremely difficult. The case worker at Villa Hope recommended that we consider a Russian child. It sounded good to us, and the process began.
There was a great deal of paperwork to complete, home studies of our home in Montgomery conducted, and clearances by local , state, and federal agencies obtained. The final paperwork was submitted to Russia in the Spring of 2003.
In August, we received word that we had a “referral,” meaning that the adoption agency in Russia had matched us up with a child. We were given a video tape and medical records on the girl. This tape and the records were reviewed by a pediatrician in Montgomery who specializes in medical care for internationally adopted children and also by a physician at The International Adoption Clinic located at UAB Hospital. The doctors’ opinion was that Ellie was doing fine considering she was premature and had been in an orphanage for seven months.
Soon thereafter, we were informed that there was going to be a change in the government hierarchy in Kazan’ Russia where Ellie lived. The agency needed to speed things up, and a court date was set for October 28. If we didn’t come over before then it would be well into 2004 before we could get Ellie, and in all likelihood, we would have to travel to Russia twice to complete the adoption.
Many arrangements had to be made. Carol had to ask for 3 months leave from work. I had to arrange for my law practice to be “put on hold” until late November. Carol’s boss, Claude McCartney of Southern Union, was very accommodating and shared the excitement of the impending addition to the Pool family. Clients, fellow lawyers, my partner Johnnie Smith, my legal assistant Becky Moulton and the local judges bent over backwards to make the adjustments for me, and all of my court work was postponed. Finally, visas to visit Russia had to be obtained from the Russian government.
Fortunately for us, we had saved Delta frequent flyer miles for many years, and were able to redeem them for First class round trip tickets. Delta also offered a huge discount for the return flight for adopting couples, only requiring that we have tickets ourselves, and pay the taxes on an extra ticket for the baby. The baby does not have a seat on the plane, so it’s very good we had first class tickets, because Ellie had to ride in our laps. Cramped coach seats would have been a nightmare for the 3 hour flight from Moscow to Paris and the 9 hour flight from Paris to Atlanta.
On the afternoon of October 19, we drove to Atlanta and left for Russia. There was a brief layover in Paris, then a connecting flight on Air France to Moscow. We really liked the food on the Air France flight, I declared it “the finest food I’ve ever gotten on an airline.”
It took a total of 13 hours to get to Moscow, arriving at 6:00 p.m., local time on the 20th. Moscow is nine hours ahead of Montgomery, meaning when it is noon in Alabama, its already 9:00 p.m. that day in Moscow. Customs check-in was totally uneventful, the stoic Russian soldiers methodically stamping the passports and visa papers with hardly a nod at each person coming through.
The first glimpse of Russia was at night, but Moscow is a big city with lots of lights, and very Westernized. Advertisements for American goods are everywhere, but everything else is in Russian. There is much legalized gambling in Russia, with video poker parlors scattered throughout the country. The Russian language is very hard, made harder because their alphabet is not even the same as the one used by English, French, German, Italian, Portuguese, and many others.
In downtown Moscow, up the street from the Kremlin and Red Square, is the Marriott Grand, a very luxurious hotel with everything one could get in the USA, except that of the 150 television stations on the “satellite”, only a handful were in English. We later found out that the TV in Kazan’ was even worse, with only 3 stations in English; Euronews, BBC News, and MSNBCEurope.
At a hotel registration in Russia, one must first surrender his or her passport, which is necessary for the hotel to register the visitor with the government, and after about an hour, the passport is returned.
On Tuesday, the 21st, we met Victoria, a lovely 26 year old Russian girl, who would be our coordinator and guide in Moscow. Victoria works for WorldChild, the adoption agency which partners with VillaHope, and has offices in Moscow, Falls Creek, Virginia, and other places around the globe. Victoria spoke perfect English, having graduated from the University in Moscow with a degree in English. She was a proud Muscovite, and extremely knowledgeable about the history, tourist sites, and shopping bazaars in the city.
Mixed in with more voluminous last-minute paperwork, we toured Moscow for 2 days, seeing the Kremlin, Red Square, Gum, Russia’s tomb of the unknown soldier, and many other sights. Gum, the huge mall adjacent to Red Square proved to be a delightful shopping experience. And I bought a fur hat from a street vendor, who insisted on being paid in American money, $20.00 for the rabbit hat.
On Wednesday night, the 22nd, we met Natasha, also with the agency, who would accompany us to Kazan’. Natasha’s English paled in comparison to Victoria’s, but was understandable. The next night we boarded an Aeroflot airliner, for the 1 ½ hour flight to Kazan’. The food was not good on Aeroflot, and some of it was a complete mystery.
The Kazan’ airport is cold, dark, and stark. There is not a carousel for luggage. The restrooms are like indoor outhouses, and there are hardly any signs giving directions. Natasha led us off the plane, through the “terminal”, and to the drivers, Alex and Alex, two young Russian men who were drivers for the agency. Alex #1 spoke pretty good English, and provided some insights into Kazan’, Alex #2 did neither.
The drive into Kazan’ was somewhat unnerving. The roads are narrow, hardly lit, and for the most part, unmarked. In Kazan’, about 30 minutes from the airport, it wasn’t much better. It is a cold and sad city. Interestingly, Kazan’ will celebrate 1000 years of existence in 2 years, while Moscow is only 800 years old. Lots of Kazan’ showed the antiquity of the city. There is construction going on in Kazan’, but also lots of desolation and destruction.
We stayed at the Guiseppe Hotel. Mr. Guiseppe is Cicilian, and many times we wondered how on earth a Sicilian got 500 miles into the heart of Russia, and had a hotel to boot. Guiseppe is loud, friendly, and thoroughly likeable, and a terrific cook, as we later learned.
Accommodations were nice, though dated. The hotel room was very large, with a sitting room with a full sized refrigerator, living, dining, and bedroom combination, and a full bath with a shower and a tub. In one corner of the bathroom was another piece of equipment, baffling us. At first, I thought it was a bidet. On close examination, there was a hot and cold spigot, and a drain plug. Later, we found out that the commode looking fixture was for foot-washing!
The clerks in the hotel spoke broken English. In the adjacent Guiseppe Pizza Parlor, only one person in 19 days in Kazan’ spoke English.
On Thursday, October 25, we finally got to meet Ellie. The trip was a 30 minute ride in the BMW belonging to Alex #1. Alex also had a small Russian hatchback, which would travel better in icy conditions, which we soon learned, would be necessary. The trip to the orphanage was very depressing. The citizens there lead hard lives, are for the most part very poor, and most don’t smile. The streets are dirty and poorly maintained.
Orphanage #2 in Kazan holds 100 children under the age of 4. The orphanage was bleak to say the least. Ellie was in room #8 of 10 rooms. Every piece of clothing on her had an “8" embroidered on it. The children stay bundled up in 4 or 5 layers of clothes. The caretakers are pleasant, but with 1 or 2 caretakers for 10 children, individual attention is at a minimum for each child. Ellie had an engaging smile, and our hearts rose when we saw her. She came to us, we hugged her, and it was love at first sight. She’s teething so she flashed a toothy grin. We hugged her and talked to her and played with a stuffed animal. The hour flew by. Off we went in our car back to the hotel. We had free time until 4:00 when we went back to the orphanage. In the afternoon, we got to visit for 1 ½ hours. The 1/2 hour ride to and from the orphanage twice a day was played out almost daily until Ellie was released to us on November 8.
On Saturday, October 25, we awoke to a huge snowstorm which prohibited travel. The streets were passable the next day, and thereafter. The streets of Kazan’ are treacherous. Traveling them was worth it every day, because each day we became more and more attached to Ellie and the time allowed us for the visits seemed so short. At lunch and in the evenings, we walked the streets of Kazan’. There’s not much to see and do there, the food in the restaurants is nothing spectacular, and the language barrier prohibited much improvisation. Only 2 restaurants had English menus, and their cuisine soon got old after a few visits.
Court was set on October 28. We went with Natalya, a social worker, and we had an interpreter. He was very nice, and tried to give us some pointers on Russian courts. The Judge called the case, we went in the room, and had the most unpleasant experience of our trip. We were treated very rudely and harshly. He had the authority to waive the “10-day waiting period.” He denied the request, even though our local pediatricians had advised that we get Ellie examined as soon as possible. As a result, instead of bringing Ellie home on November 3, we couldn’t come home until the 11th. We were offered the option of coming back home at the end of October, and coming back for Ellie. Carol and I decided that we would not leave Russia without her.
Each day brought us a little closer to coming home, and a lot closer to our daughter. We got news that we could get Ellie on the 8th. Guiseppe decided to throw a party on Thursday night. He started off with pasta, which he made with salmon and 2 kinds of caviar. Then we had a delicious salad. The main course was a shish kabob of 5 kinds of fish and shrimp, presented beautifully. Finally, we were presented with a beautiful desert with Italian ice creams, nuts and cookies. Guiseppe opened several bottles of Sicilian Chardonnay, which complemented the meal perfectly. It was a nice celebration to end our long stay in Kazan’.
Finally, on Friday, November 8, we went to the orphanage for the final time. We took an outfit for Ellie, and the gifts for the caretakers, the administrator, the doctors in the orphanage, and some more folks that I can’t remember.
Ellie was handed to us the same way she came into this world, naked, innocent, and beautiful. We dressed her and took the ride back to the hotel. She did great! She accompanied us to Guiseppe’s restaurant, sat like a sweet little girl, slept all night, and woke up in a strange new world with a smile on her face and our hearts in her hand.
The next evening, we took the drive to the airport. Ellie slept all of the way. We boarded a plane with letters I don’t remember, but it wasn’t Aeroflot. Ellie never whimpered, and the take-off and landing didn’t seem to bother her, we gave her a bottle each time to help with the evening of the pressure in her ears.
We got to Moscow late at night, drove to the Marriott Grand, and welcomed Ellie to the Western world of bright lights, fancy dining rooms, and opulence fit for a queen...compared to the orphanage she had been in since she was 2 months old.
The next day we again toured Moscow, and took pictures of Ellie in Red Square. They were forwarded home and made part of a three part article in The Montgomery Independent. Ellie had become something of a local celebrity in Montgomery.
On the morning of the 10th, we went to the United States Embassy to get Ellie’s visa. She would not be a U.S. citizen until her feet touched the ground in the USA, even though the adoption was complete in Russia, and we were her parents. The most uplifting time of the trip occurred at the Embassy. There is an entire wing of the building devoted solely to adoptions. In the 30 minute time frame we were there, two dozen American families were there with their babies getting visas to bring their children home, and it goes on for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week! Besides all speaking English, a great sensation for us, it is uncanny how much each child resembled one or both of their parents. Of course, I’m convinced Ellie looks like me. If she is as lovely as my wife, her mother, either grandmother, or my sister Freddie, she’ll be a knockout.
On the morning of the 11th, we got up at 3:00 a.m., went to the airport, through customs, and boarded the Air France back to Paris. That trip is 3 hours long. All on the plane oohed and ahhed. Ellie responded with her intoxicating smile.
After a short layover in Paris, we boarded the Boeing 777 for the 9 hour flight to Atlanta. During the flight, Ellie took a couple of bottles, took a few naps, and during some of the slightly fussy moments, got paraded around the plane. All in all, we thought she did fine. In fact, there were other small children on the plane, some newly adopted, and Carol and I felt that “our baby was the best behaved.” No bias there, simply a fact.
Carol videotaped Ellie’s little feet as I placed them on the floor at Hartsfield Airport...now she was officially a U.S. citizen! It took about an hour to go through customs with Ellie. All of our papers were in perfect order, and we loaded Ellie into our Yukon XL for the drive back to Montgomery. For the first time in her life, Ellie was placed in a car seat. No one wears a seat belt in Russia, much less a car seat for infants. Shortly after she was strapped in the seat, Ellie fell fast asleep, which she does now, within 5 minutes of getting in the car seat.
During the 2 hour drive back to Montgomery, we made calls to her 2 grandmothers, Sorrell and Elaine; Freddie and Tommy Hill; and our friends in Montgomery. All were thrilled for us.
When we drove up in the driveway in Ellie’s new home, a dozen friends were in the yard cheering and taking pictures. A large banner had been placed in the front, “Welcome home little Elaine “Ellie” Sorrell Pool, and there were pink bows and teddy bears all around.
I took Ellie out of the car seat, she looked around at all of these total strangers, and held her arms out to her maternal grandmother, Elaine, who held her for the next hour, not surrendering her to anyone. We had been up for almost 30 hours, and were totally exhausted.
A few days later, we were able to present Ellie to her paternal grandmother. She took to her immediately, and enjoyed taking a bottle from her and being held. Grandma Pool beamed with delight, and was so proud of her 5th, and latest grandchild, to add to her family, which now includes 10 great-grandchildren.
Thanksgiving was wild in Roanoke. Thirty-five family members had traditional dinner in Roanoke in the Pool house. Sorrell presided over her family, and Elaine came as usual, since she is so much a part of the family. All of her grandchildren were there with their spouses, and 6 of the 10 great-grandchildren. My aunt, Sarah Wood and all of her family also came, as is tradition on Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving dinner turned into a huge baby shower for Ellie, as she was showered with gifts from her family. We had so much for which to be thankful. Thanks be to God Almighty!
Ellie is now a thoroughly modern American girl. She has been to Wal-Mart, Target, Bruno’s, the malls, 3 Auburn basketball games, and has been held by Santa and Aubie. When her picture was made with Aubie, she turned back around and wanted to go back to him and give him another hug! The pediatricians say she is making up for lost ground at record pace, and is gaining weight the way she should. She is currently on three bottles of formula per day, laced with vitamins and iron, and each spiked with a serving of Carnation Instant Breakfast for the calories and added nutrition.
Ellie’s now looking forward to Christmas, and so are we. There are so many children overseas who have little or no chance in life unless they are adopted. More should consider adoption if they need to complete or add to their family. Our dreams and prayers have been answered, and now our family is complete. Merry Christmas to all!
*Excerpts from the family journal
until later -
j.w. godwin
Sharing others stories
Since we started this blog we have been checking the "stats" for fun to see where people are located that are reading it. Well, much to our surprise people are reading it all over the world which we think is pretty amazing. People in Russia, Germany, Chile, Saudi Arabia, China, etc. have been reading our blog! How cool is that? So we want to make sure that we keep everyone up to date on what is going on. Since we are currently in a holding pattern for the nextstep and nothing very "exciting" is happening to share, we thought we would share some other peoples stories. Our wonderful church, Saint James United Methodist Church, is starting an outreach program for families who are interested in adoption/fostering. There were four families at the first meeting to help get everything "started up." So we asked them if they would mind us sharing their stories on our blog and of course they didn't mind. So I am going to post the first one today of a Russian adoption..... I hope you enjoy.
until later -
j.w. godwin
until later -
j.w. godwin
Monday, October 25, 2010
Happy Halloween -
Hello everyone – it is almost time for Halloween and we are all getting into the spirit here in Montgomery. We had our “Trunk or Treat” (aka Fall Festival) at church last night and it was so much fun. Olivia was a firefly, and surprisingly she kept her wings on all night, until she passed out from exhaustion.
Earlier in the day, after church was over, we took Olivia to Frazier United Methodist Church where they are selling some pumpkins and we took some pictures of her, since we didn’t have time to make it all the way out to a pumpkin patch. We hope each of you and your families have a safe and Happy Halloween.
Update on Zoe: We are still just waiting (patiently) on a referral. We hope everyone else is doing well in their adoptions. Let us know the status of everything when you can. There is another family here in Montgomery that we have been blessed to meet during this time and they are adopting a little girl from Ethiopia as well. Well - - - they received their referral last week and it literally gave KC and I both chills. Not only because we know how blessed this little girl will be because she is being brought into their lives, but also because it made it EVEN MORE real to KC and I that we could be receiving that phone call anytime between now and when ever to tell us that we have been referred a baby. So please keep us in your prayers as we patiently wait for God to bless us with Zoe, as well as all of the new families receiving referrals, the families who have referrals and who are waiting to go pick their babies up, the families who are traveling now, and the families who have completed it all and are home with their little ones… or big ones – which ever. God bless.
until later -
j.w. godwin
Earlier in the day, after church was over, we took Olivia to Frazier United Methodist Church where they are selling some pumpkins and we took some pictures of her, since we didn’t have time to make it all the way out to a pumpkin patch. We hope each of you and your families have a safe and Happy Halloween.
Update on Zoe: We are still just waiting (patiently) on a referral. We hope everyone else is doing well in their adoptions. Let us know the status of everything when you can. There is another family here in Montgomery that we have been blessed to meet during this time and they are adopting a little girl from Ethiopia as well. Well - - - they received their referral last week and it literally gave KC and I both chills. Not only because we know how blessed this little girl will be because she is being brought into their lives, but also because it made it EVEN MORE real to KC and I that we could be receiving that phone call anytime between now and when ever to tell us that we have been referred a baby. So please keep us in your prayers as we patiently wait for God to bless us with Zoe, as well as all of the new families receiving referrals, the families who have referrals and who are waiting to go pick their babies up, the families who are traveling now, and the families who have completed it all and are home with their little ones… or big ones – which ever. God bless.
until later -
j.w. godwin
Thursday, October 21, 2010
God is SO good !
Today is a good day! Thanks to all of the love, support, donations and prayers from all of our friends, family and the many other people who we have never met – OUR ADOPTION IS PAID OFF!!!!
The “ransom”, as we call it, has been paid completely off! All we have to do now is raise enough money for our travel to Ethiopia and back – twice.
Earlier this week Lifesong notified us that some donations had come in to our account, they then told us the amounts that they totaled and we were beyond excited and grateful. It was enough to finish paying off all of the fees that we still owed to Arise, the court fees, international fees, etc. God truly is an awesome God. There was no way that KC and I could have afforded to pay the entire amount for the adoption ourselves.
We had to step out of our comfort zone, which is so difficult for everyone to do, including us, and ask for help. It was even more uncomfortable, because it was asking for money and no one ever likes to do that. But we had faith, prayed about it, and knew that God would handle this minor hiccup and make sure that we were able to get Zoe. We knew when we started this amazing journey that we would come to the moment when we had to ask for help, we just weren’t looking forward to it – but I can tell you from a firsthand experience, all you have to do is have faith. Every time I started to feel down or depressed about the fact that we couldn’t just write a check and pay for the adoption I would remember Matthew 17:20 - "Because you have so little faith. I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you."
So thank you to everyone who helped us get to this moment. We are forever grateful and I don’t think we could ever express our gratitude enough. For everyone else who still wants to help us with the costs of travel, you can always buy a shirt! They are still on sale and will be until November 5th.
As far as everything else and how it is going, we are still in the waiting stage. We are praying and waiting every day for our Arise to call and tell us that we have a referral. Please continue to keep us in your prayers during this time – it is very difficult just waiting. I am a type of person, who likes to grab life by the horns and get it done with, but it is completely out of my hands right now, and it is driving me crazy, yet teaching me so much about patience.
Until the next time –
j.w. godwin
The “ransom”, as we call it, has been paid completely off! All we have to do now is raise enough money for our travel to Ethiopia and back – twice.
Earlier this week Lifesong notified us that some donations had come in to our account, they then told us the amounts that they totaled and we were beyond excited and grateful. It was enough to finish paying off all of the fees that we still owed to Arise, the court fees, international fees, etc. God truly is an awesome God. There was no way that KC and I could have afforded to pay the entire amount for the adoption ourselves.
We had to step out of our comfort zone, which is so difficult for everyone to do, including us, and ask for help. It was even more uncomfortable, because it was asking for money and no one ever likes to do that. But we had faith, prayed about it, and knew that God would handle this minor hiccup and make sure that we were able to get Zoe. We knew when we started this amazing journey that we would come to the moment when we had to ask for help, we just weren’t looking forward to it – but I can tell you from a firsthand experience, all you have to do is have faith. Every time I started to feel down or depressed about the fact that we couldn’t just write a check and pay for the adoption I would remember Matthew 17:20 - "Because you have so little faith. I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you."
So thank you to everyone who helped us get to this moment. We are forever grateful and I don’t think we could ever express our gratitude enough. For everyone else who still wants to help us with the costs of travel, you can always buy a shirt! They are still on sale and will be until November 5th.
As far as everything else and how it is going, we are still in the waiting stage. We are praying and waiting every day for our Arise to call and tell us that we have a referral. Please continue to keep us in your prayers during this time – it is very difficult just waiting. I am a type of person, who likes to grab life by the horns and get it done with, but it is completely out of my hands right now, and it is driving me crazy, yet teaching me so much about patience.
Until the next time –
j.w. godwin
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Attention friends -
If you know of anyone who is also using our adoption agency "Arise for Children" out of Louisville, Kentucky please have them email us or leave a message in our blog somewhere. We are very interested in getting in contact with other "Arise" families. We hope to hear about their trip(s) and make some connections.
Also - there is a MUCH longer blog entry that I have been meaning to post about this, but if you are considering adoption or have questions about it or anything, you should definitely use Arise for Children!!!!!! They are all such amazing, patient, thorough and kind hearted people. If you've ever thought about adoption, now is an good a time as any to atleast look into it. That's all it took for me and KC to take that leap of faith.
Patiently waiting -
j.w. godwin
Also - there is a MUCH longer blog entry that I have been meaning to post about this, but if you are considering adoption or have questions about it or anything, you should definitely use Arise for Children!!!!!! They are all such amazing, patient, thorough and kind hearted people. If you've ever thought about adoption, now is an good a time as any to atleast look into it. That's all it took for me and KC to take that leap of faith.
Patiently waiting -
j.w. godwin
Friday, October 1, 2010
Getting it all together
Well friends, we have come to the moment in our adoption where we have to do something that is very awkward and uncomfortable, but yet humbling and honest. It is time for KC and I to start asking everyone to help us fund our trip over to Ethiopia. It is October 1st and we are starting our fundraising efforts – TODAY!
God tells us in His word He has heard the cry of the orphaned and abandoned children (Psalm 10:17, 18) and He has made a way for them to be cared for – through adoption. As believers, He adopted us into His family through Jesus Christ, and did not leave us as spiritual orphans!
Will you invest financially in the life of our child? . . . It will be an investment with eternal return.
All of you know we have felt called and directed by God to adopt a child into our family. We are adopting a little girl from Ethiopia, and will be matched with a specific child hopefully sometime this fall, then travel to Ethiopia this spring to bring her home. As a family, we've been excitedly praying for her everyday and as you all know, we have named her - Zoe Grace!
God desires for orphans of all nations to be loved, cared for and adopted into Christian families - ultimately so they can become saved, and be adopted into His eternal family through Jesus Christ! There are so many things God has used to prick our hearts and move us to adopt, here are a few:
Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction... James 1:27
Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will - Ephesians 1:5
The biggest challenge for us is not opening our hearts and home to another child, but it is in finding the finances to make this happen. We estimate our total costs for adoption fees, document preparation, home study, airfare, travel, attorney fees, etc. to be close to $27,000 - and that's certainly money we don't have just lying around, but we know God is faithful and is leading us to trust Him. By God's grace we've been able to pay the initial fees by practically draining most of our savings and by some private donations.
Honestly, it's a little difficult, mainly because of our pride, to make our needs known to everyone around us, but we also know it's very Biblical to do so. We appreciate your friendship very much and would like you to pray and consider helping us in our adoption. There are three ways you can help:
1.) Prayer - Please pray God will tenderly care for Zoe Grace in Ethiopia until we are able to bring her home, that God would prepare Olivia for the upcoming changes to our family, and that God will give us wisdom, discernment, and insight as we raise Olivia and Zoe to know Jesus Christ.
2.) Financial Support - Will you please consider making a tax-deductible donation to help us pay the remaining $10,000 in adoption expenses, to bring Zoe home?
Lifesong has graciously set up a fundraising account for us to raise funds to help pay the "ransom" to bring Zoe home. If you would like to be a part of God bringing Zoe to Himself through our family, you can send your tax-deductible gift starting today October 1st! Lifesong is a trusted organization administering the funds on Zoe's behalf, and will pay the adoption expenses out of fund received. They truly are amazing people and a God send!
Steps to do this:
Please make checks payable to: "Lifesong"
You should write "Godwin/#1549" in the memo section.
You can then mail your check to:
Lifesong for Orphans
Att: Godwin/#1549
PO Box 40
Gridley, IL 61744
3.) BUY A T-SHIRT – We have been selected as the family of the quarter by a wonderful website called Dolka Pots. It was started to help families raise money for adoptions. There are two families chosen each quarter and whatever is bought on the website, you have an option to decide which family you would like to receive the credit and then that family gets a certain percentage of the proceeds from the sales during their quarter. They are also selling and making our t-shirts and we get 50% of all proceeds from our t-shirt sales and that will go 100% directly to travel expenses. So I hope you will take a moment and at least look at our shirt and around on their website. If there is anything that you would like to buy, make sure you chose “Godwin family” when you go to check out. We would really appreciate it.
http://www.dolkapots.com/ – our shirts are on the page.
I don’t think we could ever say thank you enough to everyone and how supportive you have all been. Thank you for investing in the Kingdom through prayer and finances - it will be an investment with an eternal return! (Matt 6:20). We'll give you an update with a picture of Zoe as soon as we receive it and any other details as we receive them. Please pray this entire process will glorify God and fulfill His purposes!
In Christ,
J.W., KC and Olivia Claire Godwin
A note from Lifesong –
JW and KC have sensed God’s call . . . and have joyfully stepped out in faith and obedience to adopt a child from Ethiopia. As you may already know, adoption can cost around $25,000 and prevents many godly families from adopting. Lifesong believes God has raised up the Godwin family “for such a time as this…” We invite you to support them financially to make this adoption possible. Funds donated to Lifesong for Orphans will be given as an AdoptionGrant to help cover adoption expenses for this child. Your gift is tax deductible and you will receive a tax-deductible receipt. *100% of all funds raised will go directly to cover adoption costs--nothing will be taken out for Lifesong for Orphans administrative costs.
God tells us in His word He has heard the cry of the orphaned and abandoned children (Psalm 10:17, 18) and He has made a way for them to be cared for – through adoption. As believers, He adopted us into His family through Jesus Christ, and did not leave us as spiritual orphans!
Will you invest financially in the life of our child? . . . It will be an investment with eternal return.
All of you know we have felt called and directed by God to adopt a child into our family. We are adopting a little girl from Ethiopia, and will be matched with a specific child hopefully sometime this fall, then travel to Ethiopia this spring to bring her home. As a family, we've been excitedly praying for her everyday and as you all know, we have named her - Zoe Grace!
God desires for orphans of all nations to be loved, cared for and adopted into Christian families - ultimately so they can become saved, and be adopted into His eternal family through Jesus Christ! There are so many things God has used to prick our hearts and move us to adopt, here are a few:
Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction... James 1:27
Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will - Ephesians 1:5
The biggest challenge for us is not opening our hearts and home to another child, but it is in finding the finances to make this happen. We estimate our total costs for adoption fees, document preparation, home study, airfare, travel, attorney fees, etc. to be close to $27,000 - and that's certainly money we don't have just lying around, but we know God is faithful and is leading us to trust Him. By God's grace we've been able to pay the initial fees by practically draining most of our savings and by some private donations.
Honestly, it's a little difficult, mainly because of our pride, to make our needs known to everyone around us, but we also know it's very Biblical to do so. We appreciate your friendship very much and would like you to pray and consider helping us in our adoption. There are three ways you can help:
1.) Prayer - Please pray God will tenderly care for Zoe Grace in Ethiopia until we are able to bring her home, that God would prepare Olivia for the upcoming changes to our family, and that God will give us wisdom, discernment, and insight as we raise Olivia and Zoe to know Jesus Christ.
2.) Financial Support - Will you please consider making a tax-deductible donation to help us pay the remaining $10,000 in adoption expenses, to bring Zoe home?
Lifesong has graciously set up a fundraising account for us to raise funds to help pay the "ransom" to bring Zoe home. If you would like to be a part of God bringing Zoe to Himself through our family, you can send your tax-deductible gift starting today October 1st! Lifesong is a trusted organization administering the funds on Zoe's behalf, and will pay the adoption expenses out of fund received. They truly are amazing people and a God send!
Steps to do this:
Please make checks payable to: "Lifesong"
You should write "Godwin/#1549" in the memo section.
You can then mail your check to:
Lifesong for Orphans
Att: Godwin/#1549
PO Box 40
Gridley, IL 61744
3.) BUY A T-SHIRT – We have been selected as the family of the quarter by a wonderful website called Dolka Pots. It was started to help families raise money for adoptions. There are two families chosen each quarter and whatever is bought on the website, you have an option to decide which family you would like to receive the credit and then that family gets a certain percentage of the proceeds from the sales during their quarter. They are also selling and making our t-shirts and we get 50% of all proceeds from our t-shirt sales and that will go 100% directly to travel expenses. So I hope you will take a moment and at least look at our shirt and around on their website. If there is anything that you would like to buy, make sure you chose “Godwin family” when you go to check out. We would really appreciate it.
http://www.dolkapots.com/ – our shirts are on the page.
I don’t think we could ever say thank you enough to everyone and how supportive you have all been. Thank you for investing in the Kingdom through prayer and finances - it will be an investment with an eternal return! (Matt 6:20). We'll give you an update with a picture of Zoe as soon as we receive it and any other details as we receive them. Please pray this entire process will glorify God and fulfill His purposes!
In Christ,
J.W., KC and Olivia Claire Godwin
A note from Lifesong –
JW and KC have sensed God’s call . . . and have joyfully stepped out in faith and obedience to adopt a child from Ethiopia. As you may already know, adoption can cost around $25,000 and prevents many godly families from adopting. Lifesong believes God has raised up the Godwin family “for such a time as this…” We invite you to support them financially to make this adoption possible. Funds donated to Lifesong for Orphans will be given as an AdoptionGrant to help cover adoption expenses for this child. Your gift is tax deductible and you will receive a tax-deductible receipt. *100% of all funds raised will go directly to cover adoption costs--nothing will be taken out for Lifesong for Orphans administrative costs.
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
one step closer . . . .
And it is complete…. The home study, which sometimes can take a little bit of time, is officially completed! God truly is so amazing. My day started off so bad today and it hadn’t gotten any better all morning. I just went to eat lunch and decided that I was going to come back to work and have a better afternoon. When I get back I had an email waiting to tell me that our home study paperwork for the adoption is OFFICIALLY completed and we should be receiving it in the mail tomorrow. The smallest things make the worst days turn into some of the best… Thank you to everyone who we had to pester as a reference and for letters of recommendation.
So what does this mean now? Well, tomorrow when I receive our copies of the home study, I will then mail off our dossier. I completed it a few weeks ago so that as soon as this came in we could have it ready to send off. We had to do three copies – each country is different in this aspect. One copy is for us, one copy is for our amazing family at Arise for Children, and the third is for our dossier that will be sent overseas to Ethiopia. So what is a dossier? Well it is a long list of things that you have to get together to send them. That is what they use in Ethiopia in court and to make sure that you are qualified to adopt. Here is all that we had to get. They all had to be originals and notarized.
- POWER OF ATTORNEY ( 3 originals)
- HOME STUDY & AGENCY LICENSE
- BIRTH CERTIFICATE - Father/Mother
- Marriage Certificate
- LOCAL POLICE (not State) CLEARANCE LETTERS/MOTHER
- LOCAL POLICE (not State) CLEARANCE LETTERS/FATHER
- EMPLOYMENT LETTER/ MOTHER
- EMPLOYMENT LETTER/FATHER
- BANK LETTER (a letter from your bank saying you are in good standing)
- Financial Statement (a worksheet that shows how much money you make and spend)
- MEDICAL REPORT - FATHER/ MOTHER
- LETTER OF INTENT (to the Director of the Ministry of Women & Children in Ethiopia, stating why you would like to adopt an Ethiopian child)
- Letter of Life Insurance
- Letter of Health Insurance
- 2 years of tax returns
- 3 PERSONAL REFERENCES
- OBLIGATION Statement for the Adoption Agency (this is where we sign saying that we will agree to do the follow up requirements: 1.) First report at the end of three months. 2.) Second report at the end of six months. 3.) Third report every year thereafter until the child(ren) is 18 years of age.)
- Color copy of passports
- Passport Size Photos
You are probably looking at it and thinking, “hmm… that isn’t that much.” Trust me. It is!
But we are DONE with the paperwork! So we now sit and wait. I can only think of Psalm 46:10 where it says - "Be still, and know that I am God.” This is going to be a trying time. We are going to be sitting and waiting on our referral – which will include the picture of our new baby, Zoe Grace. I am already praying for God to give us the strength to sit, be still and wait for his time – and also for patience and understanding for our case worker, Cindy, and everyone else at Arise, because I am sure I am going to drive them crazy asking for updates.
j.w. godwin
So what does this mean now? Well, tomorrow when I receive our copies of the home study, I will then mail off our dossier. I completed it a few weeks ago so that as soon as this came in we could have it ready to send off. We had to do three copies – each country is different in this aspect. One copy is for us, one copy is for our amazing family at Arise for Children, and the third is for our dossier that will be sent overseas to Ethiopia. So what is a dossier? Well it is a long list of things that you have to get together to send them. That is what they use in Ethiopia in court and to make sure that you are qualified to adopt. Here is all that we had to get. They all had to be originals and notarized.
- POWER OF ATTORNEY ( 3 originals)
- HOME STUDY & AGENCY LICENSE
- BIRTH CERTIFICATE - Father/Mother
- Marriage Certificate
- LOCAL POLICE (not State) CLEARANCE LETTERS/MOTHER
- LOCAL POLICE (not State) CLEARANCE LETTERS/FATHER
- EMPLOYMENT LETTER/ MOTHER
- EMPLOYMENT LETTER/FATHER
- BANK LETTER (a letter from your bank saying you are in good standing)
- Financial Statement (a worksheet that shows how much money you make and spend)
- MEDICAL REPORT - FATHER/ MOTHER
- LETTER OF INTENT (to the Director of the Ministry of Women & Children in Ethiopia, stating why you would like to adopt an Ethiopian child)
- Letter of Life Insurance
- Letter of Health Insurance
- 2 years of tax returns
- 3 PERSONAL REFERENCES
- OBLIGATION Statement for the Adoption Agency (this is where we sign saying that we will agree to do the follow up requirements: 1.) First report at the end of three months. 2.) Second report at the end of six months. 3.) Third report every year thereafter until the child(ren) is 18 years of age.)
- Color copy of passports
- Passport Size Photos
You are probably looking at it and thinking, “hmm… that isn’t that much.” Trust me. It is!
But we are DONE with the paperwork! So we now sit and wait. I can only think of Psalm 46:10 where it says - "Be still, and know that I am God.” This is going to be a trying time. We are going to be sitting and waiting on our referral – which will include the picture of our new baby, Zoe Grace. I am already praying for God to give us the strength to sit, be still and wait for his time – and also for patience and understanding for our case worker, Cindy, and everyone else at Arise, because I am sure I am going to drive them crazy asking for updates.
j.w. godwin
Thursday, September 23, 2010
The Leap of Faith -
Here is an interesting topic that EVERYONE has asked us about. I really didn't want to write about this, but I have had SO many people ask me about it, and have been motivated by the story I guess that is a sign that I should share it with everyone else...
How did WS and Rebecca take the news about Zoe?
Well..... Let's start at the beginning. As you know, KC and I decided that this was something that we both felt called by God to do and we decided long before telling anyone else about it that it would be something that WE would do. The two of us. So we did. We started, we got accepted and we moved forward. Well the moment came where we had to tell our parents. I guess we didn't "have" to tell them, but if you know me at all you know that I share almost everything with my family. It has to be something VERY serious for me not to share it with them. They are the best. They are an amazing support team. They pray for you. They are a shoulder to lean on. They give advice, sometimes unsolicited, but always with the best intentions in mind. I remember telling Mama and Papa about Zoe as if it were us telling them about Olivia again. We were at their house on a Sunday afternoon. I pulled up the Lucy Lane video and showed them. My dad teared up a little bit and my mom said something along the lines of - that's truly special. I was thinking, awesome. This is going great. They are in the moment, they are totally supportive. They saw that video, they saw how many children need homes and mommy and daddy's, this is gonna be great! Ha. Not really. The emotions changed very quickly. I said, well you are going to have a grandchild like that. They both looked at me, and my dad walked towards the kitchen to finish cleaning up from lunch. While I look back and know that it was merely the shock and fact that I just blurted it out like I had just told them I was moving to Canada - it still hurt my feelings. It wasn't how I had planned. All I could think was "No. No. No. That isn't how this is supposed to play out!" They were suppose to gasp for breath, hug me and KC, start asking a million questions, call my siblings or at least encourage me to. But it didn't happen like that - and I didn't understand why.
I don't understand why my parents responded like that and still to this day can’t tell you why they didn't get as excited as KC and I were to tell them. What was wrong?
It has taken me this long to take their reactions and digest them and this is what I think happened. KC and I said, "we are gonna have another baby and she will be from Ethiopia. We are adopting!" and I think what they heard was "We have decided to take on a challenge that will be a lifelong battle from outsiders, extremely expensive and no one can talk us out of it." I get it. I do. I understand what they were thinking and probably what they heard. Zoe isn't even here and yet we are already getting some odd responses and reactions from some family, friends and others who we don't even really know - but we don't care.
Since that day, even against my sometimes smarter sisters and sister-in-law's advice, I pushed. I mean I pushed and pushed and pushed my parents. I just didn't understand what their deals were. It is a baby! It isn't like we are going to Africa to bring back a lion to sleep in the same room as Olivia. It will be a precious little bundle of joy, but with darker skin. That's all. What's the big problem with that?
I finally just asked and they explained. Both of my parents are teachers. They explained about how they have seen, first hand, how difficult it can be for children in mixed raced families. They sometimes aren't accepted by either race and are left all alone. They told me that as parents we can be there all the time during the day and protect them, but one day they have to go to school and eventually middle school - which can be the meanest. They told me that they are overly excited about the fact that we feel called by God to adopt and that he is leading us in this direction, but have we really thought this through all the way? They said that they didn't want to sway us one way or another, but that they just wanted us to think of everything before we jumped into this. We explained that we had and we understand their concerns but that we feel comfortable and confident enough in ourselves and our relationship with God to handle anything that might come our way.
KC and I just had to do it. We both felt "grown up" at that moment. We had made a decision without my parents fully embracing it at that moment and accepting it. They have since then, but at that moment it was very difficult. I have tried to explain to them how it really hurt and how we didn't understand how they couldn't just accept our decision, but if you are like me that is more difficult to explain than you think.
So we did it. We took our Leap of Faith. Was it hard? Oh yes! Were we scared? We still are. Did we wish mama and papa would have stood up and given us huge hugs and celebrated about our good news? We wish we could replay it differently all the time. But it all happened for that reason. Since then, my parents have made comments about us and our decision to adopt. They have told me how they can see how KC and I have both matured. How we have grown in our spiritual walk. How they have seen what God has in store for us and no matter what anyone said, we followed what he was calling us to do. And let me tell you people, there is nothing more difficult than doing something that your parents, at that moment, may not 100% support. God is good though. He gives us a road map to follow and allows us to make the choices as to whether we want to follow it or not. We decided to. We stood up against the ones who could have been the only ones to derail us, and we kept moving, and now they are totally on board.
So remember, it is tough. It's tough to take that leap of faith. It's tough to do what others may not at that moment agree with or understand. It's tough to go against the mold and be your own person. But IF you believe in God and know that he IS in charge, then there is nothing to fear. So maybe you do, maybe you don't have someone or something standing in your way of something that you truly feel called to do, or not to do, or maybe there is someone who you just need to tell that you are your own person - take the leap of faith. Try it. It is better on the other side, trust me.
Until later –
j.w. godwin
How did WS and Rebecca take the news about Zoe?
Well..... Let's start at the beginning. As you know, KC and I decided that this was something that we both felt called by God to do and we decided long before telling anyone else about it that it would be something that WE would do. The two of us. So we did. We started, we got accepted and we moved forward. Well the moment came where we had to tell our parents. I guess we didn't "have" to tell them, but if you know me at all you know that I share almost everything with my family. It has to be something VERY serious for me not to share it with them. They are the best. They are an amazing support team. They pray for you. They are a shoulder to lean on. They give advice, sometimes unsolicited, but always with the best intentions in mind. I remember telling Mama and Papa about Zoe as if it were us telling them about Olivia again. We were at their house on a Sunday afternoon. I pulled up the Lucy Lane video and showed them. My dad teared up a little bit and my mom said something along the lines of - that's truly special. I was thinking, awesome. This is going great. They are in the moment, they are totally supportive. They saw that video, they saw how many children need homes and mommy and daddy's, this is gonna be great! Ha. Not really. The emotions changed very quickly. I said, well you are going to have a grandchild like that. They both looked at me, and my dad walked towards the kitchen to finish cleaning up from lunch. While I look back and know that it was merely the shock and fact that I just blurted it out like I had just told them I was moving to Canada - it still hurt my feelings. It wasn't how I had planned. All I could think was "No. No. No. That isn't how this is supposed to play out!" They were suppose to gasp for breath, hug me and KC, start asking a million questions, call my siblings or at least encourage me to. But it didn't happen like that - and I didn't understand why.
I don't understand why my parents responded like that and still to this day can’t tell you why they didn't get as excited as KC and I were to tell them. What was wrong?
It has taken me this long to take their reactions and digest them and this is what I think happened. KC and I said, "we are gonna have another baby and she will be from Ethiopia. We are adopting!" and I think what they heard was "We have decided to take on a challenge that will be a lifelong battle from outsiders, extremely expensive and no one can talk us out of it." I get it. I do. I understand what they were thinking and probably what they heard. Zoe isn't even here and yet we are already getting some odd responses and reactions from some family, friends and others who we don't even really know - but we don't care.
Since that day, even against my sometimes smarter sisters and sister-in-law's advice, I pushed. I mean I pushed and pushed and pushed my parents. I just didn't understand what their deals were. It is a baby! It isn't like we are going to Africa to bring back a lion to sleep in the same room as Olivia. It will be a precious little bundle of joy, but with darker skin. That's all. What's the big problem with that?
I finally just asked and they explained. Both of my parents are teachers. They explained about how they have seen, first hand, how difficult it can be for children in mixed raced families. They sometimes aren't accepted by either race and are left all alone. They told me that as parents we can be there all the time during the day and protect them, but one day they have to go to school and eventually middle school - which can be the meanest. They told me that they are overly excited about the fact that we feel called by God to adopt and that he is leading us in this direction, but have we really thought this through all the way? They said that they didn't want to sway us one way or another, but that they just wanted us to think of everything before we jumped into this. We explained that we had and we understand their concerns but that we feel comfortable and confident enough in ourselves and our relationship with God to handle anything that might come our way.
KC and I just had to do it. We both felt "grown up" at that moment. We had made a decision without my parents fully embracing it at that moment and accepting it. They have since then, but at that moment it was very difficult. I have tried to explain to them how it really hurt and how we didn't understand how they couldn't just accept our decision, but if you are like me that is more difficult to explain than you think.
So we did it. We took our Leap of Faith. Was it hard? Oh yes! Were we scared? We still are. Did we wish mama and papa would have stood up and given us huge hugs and celebrated about our good news? We wish we could replay it differently all the time. But it all happened for that reason. Since then, my parents have made comments about us and our decision to adopt. They have told me how they can see how KC and I have both matured. How we have grown in our spiritual walk. How they have seen what God has in store for us and no matter what anyone said, we followed what he was calling us to do. And let me tell you people, there is nothing more difficult than doing something that your parents, at that moment, may not 100% support. God is good though. He gives us a road map to follow and allows us to make the choices as to whether we want to follow it or not. We decided to. We stood up against the ones who could have been the only ones to derail us, and we kept moving, and now they are totally on board.
So remember, it is tough. It's tough to take that leap of faith. It's tough to do what others may not at that moment agree with or understand. It's tough to go against the mold and be your own person. But IF you believe in God and know that he IS in charge, then there is nothing to fear. So maybe you do, maybe you don't have someone or something standing in your way of something that you truly feel called to do, or not to do, or maybe there is someone who you just need to tell that you are your own person - take the leap of faith. Try it. It is better on the other side, trust me.
Until later –
j.w. godwin
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Meant To Be . . .
Well - I have been informed that it is time to update the blog with a new post. So, what should we talk about today? I am in a writing mood, but have nothing to write about. I am sitting here on my I-pad listening to Michael Buble's new cd attempting to write a new post when I should really be reading some Criminal Procedure or Contracts homework.... but there is time to do that later it's only 10:20 pm.
Music! I'll write about that. Some of you know this, I am sure, but I really like music. I love all types and my wife can validate that with my I-tunes bill every month. (It's my addiction.)
Ever since being called by God to pack up our nap sacks of faith, leave the doubt at home and start out on this amazing journey, KC and I have been more in tune with things around us. Now, stay with me and where I am trying to go here. Think about this. You hear a song in your car every morning and every afternoon on your way to and from work and you, 9 times out of 10, find yourself singing along to it without even really knowing what you are saying half of the time. I'm definitely guilty of this. I get in the drivers seat, passenger seat, back seat, it doesn't matter - I get in the car and let it go. I bust out with anything and everything from my most favorite songs by Reba, Queen, Aerosmith, The Beatles, The Rolling Stones and many more. KC reminds me that I am allowed to sing, but maybe I should try to calm it down a little. I kindly remind her that "God said to make a joyful noise." Then in return she asks me if he meant that about all songs and moments and if he really wants me to strain and jump up and down five octaves just to sing "Everything I Want" by Matthew Puckett, or to replace Randy Travis in the duet with Carrie Underwood in "I Told You So". It is fun though.
Here recently, thanks to all of the blog stalking that KC does now, we learn so much and get introduced to so many new thing. Yes the productivity at our house has gotten even less now that we not only have tv shows to watch and Facebook to be stuck on for about an hour every night, which I have no idea why, we have even more procrastinating habits. But mentioning Facebook, people, what is up with this? I mean what did we do before we could check everyones statues updates or pictures every day - or several times a day? And you know who I am talking to, I am on there that often and see how often you comment/update/upload stuff. Well, we now have about 25 to 30 blogs about adoptions, mostly Ethiopian ones, to read - almost everyday. And we know that other families do it too, which is why we want to make it a routine thing to update ours. Well, last night KC was looking at the Portis' blog and found something new. Joy, who KC has met and had a lunch date with, had a new post on her blog. It was a song by Steven Curtis Chapman. Now - for those of you who see that name and think, "Wow, I haven't heard that name since 1998 and church youth group stuff." Yes, it is the same guy and yes, he still sings those cheesy, sappy songs - but you have to give it to him, he does a great job at it. Well, he has done it again. He has written a song for the new Veggie Tales movie or show or whatever it is, I'm not sure. All I know is that it is called "Meant To Be" and it is amazing.
Here is where all the rambling in this post will hopefully come together. I pulled up this song on YouTube, because it isn't for sale on I-tunes until Oct. 5th, I checked. I listened to it and instantly could relate to what he is saying. The lyrics are so simple and plan, but have such a strong meaning. It starts with "Long before you drew your first breath a dream was coming true. God wanted to give a gift to the world, so he wrapped it up in you. And every step that you've taking, every move that you make is part of his plan. You were meant to be touching the lives that you touch, and meant to be here making this so much more than it would be... You are perfectly, wonderfully, beautifully meant to be."
So you can see. Before this process started I would listen to a song, probably even this one, sing along and sometimes not even realize what I was saying. But this song really tugged at me. It says everything that we think. It tells how we feel about Zoe. Even though we don't know her yet, we don't know what she looks like, what her temperament is going to be like or anything - but what we do know is that she matters and is meant to be part of our family. She is coming into our family and will, in one way or another, touch all of us - she's already doing it to you, because you are reading this blog.
I am going to attach the video here, but try to focus more on what the words are than the Veggie Tales running around on the screen.
-j.w. godwin
Music! I'll write about that. Some of you know this, I am sure, but I really like music. I love all types and my wife can validate that with my I-tunes bill every month. (It's my addiction.)
Ever since being called by God to pack up our nap sacks of faith, leave the doubt at home and start out on this amazing journey, KC and I have been more in tune with things around us. Now, stay with me and where I am trying to go here. Think about this. You hear a song in your car every morning and every afternoon on your way to and from work and you, 9 times out of 10, find yourself singing along to it without even really knowing what you are saying half of the time. I'm definitely guilty of this. I get in the drivers seat, passenger seat, back seat, it doesn't matter - I get in the car and let it go. I bust out with anything and everything from my most favorite songs by Reba, Queen, Aerosmith, The Beatles, The Rolling Stones and many more. KC reminds me that I am allowed to sing, but maybe I should try to calm it down a little. I kindly remind her that "God said to make a joyful noise." Then in return she asks me if he meant that about all songs and moments and if he really wants me to strain and jump up and down five octaves just to sing "Everything I Want" by Matthew Puckett, or to replace Randy Travis in the duet with Carrie Underwood in "I Told You So". It is fun though.
Here recently, thanks to all of the blog stalking that KC does now, we learn so much and get introduced to so many new thing. Yes the productivity at our house has gotten even less now that we not only have tv shows to watch and Facebook to be stuck on for about an hour every night, which I have no idea why, we have even more procrastinating habits. But mentioning Facebook, people, what is up with this? I mean what did we do before we could check everyones statues updates or pictures every day - or several times a day? And you know who I am talking to, I am on there that often and see how often you comment/update/upload stuff. Well, we now have about 25 to 30 blogs about adoptions, mostly Ethiopian ones, to read - almost everyday. And we know that other families do it too, which is why we want to make it a routine thing to update ours. Well, last night KC was looking at the Portis' blog and found something new. Joy, who KC has met and had a lunch date with, had a new post on her blog. It was a song by Steven Curtis Chapman. Now - for those of you who see that name and think, "Wow, I haven't heard that name since 1998 and church youth group stuff." Yes, it is the same guy and yes, he still sings those cheesy, sappy songs - but you have to give it to him, he does a great job at it. Well, he has done it again. He has written a song for the new Veggie Tales movie or show or whatever it is, I'm not sure. All I know is that it is called "Meant To Be" and it is amazing.
Here is where all the rambling in this post will hopefully come together. I pulled up this song on YouTube, because it isn't for sale on I-tunes until Oct. 5th, I checked. I listened to it and instantly could relate to what he is saying. The lyrics are so simple and plan, but have such a strong meaning. It starts with "Long before you drew your first breath a dream was coming true. God wanted to give a gift to the world, so he wrapped it up in you. And every step that you've taking, every move that you make is part of his plan. You were meant to be touching the lives that you touch, and meant to be here making this so much more than it would be... You are perfectly, wonderfully, beautifully meant to be."
So you can see. Before this process started I would listen to a song, probably even this one, sing along and sometimes not even realize what I was saying. But this song really tugged at me. It says everything that we think. It tells how we feel about Zoe. Even though we don't know her yet, we don't know what she looks like, what her temperament is going to be like or anything - but what we do know is that she matters and is meant to be part of our family. She is coming into our family and will, in one way or another, touch all of us - she's already doing it to you, because you are reading this blog.
I am going to attach the video here, but try to focus more on what the words are than the Veggie Tales running around on the screen.
-j.w. godwin
Thursday, August 26, 2010
What do you really know about Ethiopia?
Well, we have read a lot about Ethiopia. One of the things that we had to do for our home study was read some stuff about the country, etc. So I have copied and pasted some interesting facts. I hope you enjoy them.
Geography
Area: 472,000 sq. mi.; about the size of Texas, Oklahoma, and New Mexico combined.
Capital--Addis Ababa (pop. 5 million).
People
Nationality: Ethiopian(s).
Population (est.): 80 million.
Annual growth rate (est.): 3.2%.
Religions (est.): Ethiopian Orthodox Christian 40%, Sunni Muslim 45-50%, Protestant 5%, remainder indigenous beliefs.
Languages: Amharic (official), Tigrinya, Arabic, Guaragigna, Oromifa, English, Somali.
Education: Years compulsory--none. Attendance (elementary)--57%. Literacy--43%.
Work force: Agriculture--80%. Industry and commerce--20%.
Suffrage: Universal starting at age 18.
GEOGRAPHY
Ethiopia is located in the Horn of Africa and is bordered on the north and northeast by Eritrea, on the east by Djibouti and Somalia, on the south by Kenya, and on the west and southwest by Sudan. The climate is temperate on the plateau and hot in the lowlands. At Addis Ababa, which ranges from 2,200 to 2,600 meters (7,000 ft.-8,500 ft.), maximum temperature is 26o C (80o F) and minimum 4o C (40o F). The weather is usually sunny and dry with the short (belg) rains occurring February-April and the big (meher) rains beginning in mid-June and ending in mid-September.
PEOPLE
Ethiopia's population is highly diverse. Most of its people speak a Semitic or Cushitic language. The Oromo, Amhara, and Tigreans make up more than three-fourths of the population, but there are more than 77 different ethnic groups with their own distinct languages within Ethiopia. Some of these have as few as 10,000 members. In general, most of the Christians live in the highlands, while Muslims and adherents of traditional African religions tend to inhabit lowland regions. English is the most widely spoken foreign language and is taught in all secondary schools. Amharic is the official language and was the language of primary school instruction but has been replaced in many areas by local languages such as Oromifa and Tigrinya.
I also did some other Googling and looking around on the internet and found some specific facts about orphans in Ethiopia. I found this statistical break down that I thought was pretty moving and told the stats very well.
Every 15 SECONDS, another child becomes an AIDS orphan in Africa.
Every DAY 5,760 more children become orphans.
Every YEAR 2,102,400 more children become orphans (in Africa alone).
There are 143,000,000* orphans in the world today. The population of
orphans theoretically makes up the 7th largest nation in the world.
Orphans in the world today spend an average of 10 years
in an orphanage or foster home.
Every YEAR 14,050,000 children grow up as orphans and AGE OUT of the system.
Every DAY 38,493 children AGE OUT.
Every 2.2 SECONDS, another orphan child AGES OUT with no
family to belong to and no place to call home.
Many of these children accept job offers that ultimately result in their being sold as slaves. Millions of girls are sex slaves today, simply because they were unfortunate enough to grow up as orphans.
*Reliable statistics are difficult to find, even the sources often list only estimates, and street children are rarely included. But even if these figures are exaggerated by double, it is still an unacceptable tragedy that over a Million children would still become orphans every year, and every year 7 Million children would still grow to adulthood as orphans with no one to belong to and no place to call home. They are totally vulnerable and easily fall prey to predators and slave recruiters.
(Data provided by UNICEF)
Don't let these numbers and statistics just be "numbers." These are CHILDREN. Real, live, human beings. Just like you. Just like me. Just like your children. Just like my child.
For a moment I imagined Olivia, without a mommy or daddy. I imagined her growing up with no one to hold her, like we are doing a lot of these days, while she is cutting teeth. Telling her that we love her and making sure she is cared for. No one to see her blow out the candles every year on her birthday cake – and I am going to assume that most of these kids don’t get a cake much less even know when their birthday is. No one to journey through with her and walk alongside her through the challenges of life.
It just isn't right. When you think of it that way, it really makes you realize how blessed each and every one of us are.
-j.w. godwin
Shots, shots and more shots
After the shock and excitement of the fact that KC and I are going to go to Africa, twice, during this adventure – the reality set in, we are going to have to get a lot of shots! Well, for those of you who know me, know that I hate needles. I hate needles SOOO much. I almost pass out every time I even see them. I asked our agency about what vaccinations we will need and while they don’t tell us that we are required to get any of them, they told us that we might want to check out the CDC website. Well – I finally got brave this week and did a Google search to see what shots we will have to get. Lord help me when I get it done and be with KC since she will have to hold my hand…
This is what came right off of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention Website:
• Routine - Recommended if you are not up-to-date with routine shots such as, measles/mumps/rubella (MMR) vaccine, diphtheria/pertussis/tetanus (DPT) vaccine, poliovirus vaccine, etc.
• Yellow Fever - CDC yellow fever vaccination recommendation for travelers to Ethiopia: For all travelers ≥9 months of age Ethiopia requires travelers arriving from countries where yellow fever is present to present proof of yellow fever vaccination. Vaccination should be given 10 days before travel and at 10-year intervals if there is ongoing risk. Find an authorized U.S. yellow fever vaccination clinic.
• Hepatitis A or immune globulin (IG) - Recommended for all unvaccinated people traveling to or working in countries with an intermediate or high level of hepatitis A virus infection (see map) where exposure might occur through food or water. Cases of travel-related hepatitis A can also occur in travelers to developing countries with "standard" tourist itineraries, accommodations, and food consumption behaviors.
• Hepatitis B - Recommended for all unvaccinated persons traveling to or working in countries with intermediate to high levels of endemic HBV transmission (see map), especially those who might be exposed to blood or body fluids, have sexual contact with the local population, or be exposed through medical treatment (e.g., for an accident).
• Typhoid - Recommended for all unvaccinated people traveling to or working in East Africa, especially if staying with friends or relatives or visiting smaller cities, villages, or rural areas where exposure might occur through food or water.
• Meningococcal (meningitis) - Recommended if you plan to visit countries that experience epidemics of meningococcal disease during December through June.
• Rabies - Recommended for travelers spending a lot of time outdoors, especially in rural areas, involved in activities such as bicycling, camping, or hiking. Also recommended for travelers with significant occupational risks (such as veterinarians), for long-term travelers and expatriates living in areas with a significant risk of exposure, and for travelers involved in any activities that might bring them into direct contact with bats, carnivores, and other mammals. Children are considered at higher risk because they tend to play with animals, may receive more severe bites, or may not report bites.
• Polio - Recommended for adult travelers who have received a primary series with either inactivated poliovirus vaccine (IPV) or oral polio vaccine (OPV). They should receive another dose of IPV before departure. For adults, available data do not indicate the need for more than a single lifetime booster dose with IPV.
• Malaria - Areas of Ethiopia with Malaria: All areas at altitudes <2,500 m (<8,202 ft), except none in Addis Ababa. (THANK YOU – I don’t want to have to take any more than I am forced to.)
http://wwwnc.cdc.gov/travel/destinations/ethiopia.aspx
KC and I have already had to go see our doctor and pediatrician way more than they would probably like, except for the great co-pay that they get every time we show up with another medical form we need them to sign off on. In the picture above, that is KC getting her blood drawn so that they can do all of the blood tests that they have to do on us, which was done weeks ago. Then her also pointing to where they stuck her for her TB test. She couldn’t get a picture of me; I needed her to keep me occupied while they stuck that huge needle in my arm.
-j.w. godwin
Monday, August 9, 2010
ONE for ONE
This entry really isn't about what is going on in the adoption but instead it is a push for everyone to go out and buy a pair of TOMS.
TOMS are shoes. You can buy them at almost any place that you can purchase shoes, or at least it's like that here in Montgomery.
Blake Mycoskie started TOMS shoes as an effort to help people in Africa. Their promise is "For every pair you purchase, TOMS will give a pair of shoes to a child in need. One for One." I was at a christian leadership summit this past week and Blake Mycoskie was one of the individuals interviewed. His message and story really is amazing. Everyone should go out and buy a pair. Just think - for $30 of $40 you could put a pair of shoes on an actual person, and usually child, in a country in Africa.
Trey, Abbey (and baby), KC & JW |
I am also very set on this because they give a lot of shoes in Ethiopia! So of course this is something that is close to mine and KC's hearts.
(Note to all of my family members, don't even think about showing up for Thanksgiving this year unless you're wearing a pair of TOMS. Just kidding... or am I?)
Check it out:
http://www.toms.com/
http://www.toms.com/blog/
-j.w. godwin
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
"Joining the Movement"
At church this past Sunday morning our new minister/youth guy Trey preached his first sermon. Going into church I leaned over and told KC, I'm sure that Trey will be good but I'm ready for Lester to come back and start preaching on a regular basis. He has been on vacation.
I will have to admit that half way through the sermon I was trying to focus but it was difficult - I felt like I had been hit by a mac truck and did not feel well at all. I have been battling a chest cold for the past four days and it took all I had to drag myself out of bed that morning.
Trey talked about who he was, where he was from and how he met and married his wonderful wife Abbey.Then towards the end of his sermon he showed us a video. (Which is attached here - Dancing Guy ) Well if you watched the video you see how that woke me up and got my attention again. He then talked to us and shared how our calling in life should be to be part of “the movement”.
The movement for Christ.
It is telling us that we need to go out on a limb and be that “first guy” who is out there dancing alone anddoesn't care if anyone else is around him. (And most of you who know me well enough, know that when it comes to dancing I have NO problems being that first guy out there acting a fool.) But when it comes to more serious things than dancing and having fun we should be that guy or girl who is the first. We should be the first one to walk down front at church and kneel to pray to God in front of the entire congregation. You know what I'm talking about. Remember those time, especially when you were a youth. Don't you remember when that moment would come at the end of the service and the preacher or speaker would encourage those of you who wanted to, to walk down and pray before God, confessing all of your sins and asking for forgiveness. Well, remember (or maybe it was just me) how you would want to go sometimes, but you didn't want to be the "first person" to go down there. What would people say? Would anyone else follow me down there? Or would they have to drag out the last song two extra verses because I decided to go do this? But then after a few of your friends went and did it, you felt comfortable enough to do it as well. Enough of your comfort zone, support group and mostly peers did it, so you figured you would as well.
Well, let me tell you. When it comes to this adoption - it definitely was a movement in our lives. KC and I knew NO ONE who was in the process of what we were about to undertake and knew nothing about what we were going to have to face. Luckily we have met SO many amazing people who are doing this as well since then and they have become some of our closest friends.
While I would never take back a single thing, and am so blessed that we have gone forward and pursuedthis, it really took us out of our comfort zone. KC & I stopped and thought - we are about to start something that no one within our family or friends knows about. We don't know how everyone will feel about it. We don't know what challenges we will have to face. What friendships we might lose over this. What struggles in life might come towards Zoe and even Olivia because of what we are about to do. But then we focused on what God was calling us to do. God wasn't calling us to just "adopt a baby". Yes, that was the overall goal, but God was calling us, we believe, to an even bigger thing, he was calling us to start a movement and follow him. Start a movement in our lives, and from that we will touch so many people. We can show so many of our friends and family members what it is like to not only adopt a baby, but one that is internationally from a different race.
So let me focus back on the main purpose of this entry and not take you down too many rabbit trails which Ihave a tendency to do. Our focus in life should be to "join the movement". But as KC pointed out to me in church, we are doing that - we are being the followers that God calls on us to be. I stopped and thought about it and I couldn't help but smile. It truly is that amazing and when I stop and think about it, I get chills all over. We ARE doing what God says in James 1:27, "...look after orphans and widows in their distress..." Well, that is exactly what we are doing. We are following. Doing what we feel led to do and doing it with a heart full of every emotion a human can possibly feel: Fear - Excitement - Joy - Doubt - Love - Anxiety - and so many more (but I couldn’t think of any more off the top of my head.)
So this week focus on what YOU can do to do the work of God. What "movement" can you make in yourlife that helps direct others towards Christ through what you are doing. My papa always tells us that you can truly tell what type of a person someone is by the way they carry themselves and the actions they takes. Without speaking a single word to them - you can see who they truly are.
After this message and remembering that, I looked in the mirror - who was I staring back at? What did heshow to the world and what did others see in return? I believe that is something we should all check out every once and a while.
I am also attaching here to transcript of the video, just in case you can't watch it -
"If you've learned a lot about leadership and making a movement, then let's watch a movement happen, start to finish, in under 3 minutes, and dissect some lessons:
A leader needs the guts to stand alone and look ridiculous. But what he's doing is so simple, it's almostinstructional. This is key. You must be easy to follow!
Now comes the first follower with a crucial role: he publicly shows everyone how to follow. Notice the leader embraces him as an equal, so it's not about the leader anymore - it's about them, plural. Notice he's calling to his friends to join in. It takes guts to be a first follower! You stand out and brave ridicule, yourself. Being a first follower is an under-appreciated form of leadership. The first follower transforms a lone nut into a leader. If the leader is the flint, the first follower is the spark that makes the fire.
The 2nd follower is a turning point: it's proof the first has done well. Now it's not a lone nut, and it's not two nuts. Three is a crowd and a crowd is news.
A movement must be public. Make sure outsiders see more than just the leader. Everyone needs to see the followers, because new followers emulate followers - not the leader.
Now here come 2 more, then 3 more. Now we've got momentum. This is the tipping point! Now we've got a movement!
As more people jump in, it's no longer risky. If they were on the fence before, there's no reason not to joinnow. They won't be ridiculed, they won't stand out, and they will be part of the in-crowd, if they hurry. Over the next minute you'll see the rest who prefer to be part of the crowd, because eventually they'd be ridiculed for not joining.
I will have to admit that half way through the sermon I was trying to focus but it was difficult - I felt like I had been hit by a mac truck and did not feel well at all. I have been battling a chest cold for the past four days and it took all I had to drag myself out of bed that morning.
Trey talked about who he was, where he was from and how he met and married his wonderful wife Abbey.Then towards the end of his sermon he showed us a video. (Which is attached here - Dancing Guy ) Well if you watched the video you see how that woke me up and got my attention again. He then talked to us and shared how our calling in life should be to be part of “the movement”.
The movement for Christ.
It is telling us that we need to go out on a limb and be that “first guy” who is out there dancing alone anddoesn't care if anyone else is around him. (And most of you who know me well enough, know that when it comes to dancing I have NO problems being that first guy out there acting a fool.) But when it comes to more serious things than dancing and having fun we should be that guy or girl who is the first. We should be the first one to walk down front at church and kneel to pray to God in front of the entire congregation. You know what I'm talking about. Remember those time, especially when you were a youth. Don't you remember when that moment would come at the end of the service and the preacher or speaker would encourage those of you who wanted to, to walk down and pray before God, confessing all of your sins and asking for forgiveness. Well, remember (or maybe it was just me) how you would want to go sometimes, but you didn't want to be the "first person" to go down there. What would people say? Would anyone else follow me down there? Or would they have to drag out the last song two extra verses because I decided to go do this? But then after a few of your friends went and did it, you felt comfortable enough to do it as well. Enough of your comfort zone, support group and mostly peers did it, so you figured you would as well.
Well, let me tell you. When it comes to this adoption - it definitely was a movement in our lives. KC and I knew NO ONE who was in the process of what we were about to undertake and knew nothing about what we were going to have to face. Luckily we have met SO many amazing people who are doing this as well since then and they have become some of our closest friends.
While I would never take back a single thing, and am so blessed that we have gone forward and pursuedthis, it really took us out of our comfort zone. KC & I stopped and thought - we are about to start something that no one within our family or friends knows about. We don't know how everyone will feel about it. We don't know what challenges we will have to face. What friendships we might lose over this. What struggles in life might come towards Zoe and even Olivia because of what we are about to do. But then we focused on what God was calling us to do. God wasn't calling us to just "adopt a baby". Yes, that was the overall goal, but God was calling us, we believe, to an even bigger thing, he was calling us to start a movement and follow him. Start a movement in our lives, and from that we will touch so many people. We can show so many of our friends and family members what it is like to not only adopt a baby, but one that is internationally from a different race.
So let me focus back on the main purpose of this entry and not take you down too many rabbit trails which Ihave a tendency to do. Our focus in life should be to "join the movement". But as KC pointed out to me in church, we are doing that - we are being the followers that God calls on us to be. I stopped and thought about it and I couldn't help but smile. It truly is that amazing and when I stop and think about it, I get chills all over. We ARE doing what God says in James 1:27, "...look after orphans and widows in their distress..." Well, that is exactly what we are doing. We are following. Doing what we feel led to do and doing it with a heart full of every emotion a human can possibly feel: Fear - Excitement - Joy - Doubt - Love - Anxiety - and so many more (but I couldn’t think of any more off the top of my head.)
So this week focus on what YOU can do to do the work of God. What "movement" can you make in yourlife that helps direct others towards Christ through what you are doing. My papa always tells us that you can truly tell what type of a person someone is by the way they carry themselves and the actions they takes. Without speaking a single word to them - you can see who they truly are.
After this message and remembering that, I looked in the mirror - who was I staring back at? What did heshow to the world and what did others see in return? I believe that is something we should all check out every once and a while.
I am also attaching here to transcript of the video, just in case you can't watch it -
"If you've learned a lot about leadership and making a movement, then let's watch a movement happen, start to finish, in under 3 minutes, and dissect some lessons:
A leader needs the guts to stand alone and look ridiculous. But what he's doing is so simple, it's almostinstructional. This is key. You must be easy to follow!
Now comes the first follower with a crucial role: he publicly shows everyone how to follow. Notice the leader embraces him as an equal, so it's not about the leader anymore - it's about them, plural. Notice he's calling to his friends to join in. It takes guts to be a first follower! You stand out and brave ridicule, yourself. Being a first follower is an under-appreciated form of leadership. The first follower transforms a lone nut into a leader. If the leader is the flint, the first follower is the spark that makes the fire.
The 2nd follower is a turning point: it's proof the first has done well. Now it's not a lone nut, and it's not two nuts. Three is a crowd and a crowd is news.
A movement must be public. Make sure outsiders see more than just the leader. Everyone needs to see the followers, because new followers emulate followers - not the leader.
Now here come 2 more, then 3 more. Now we've got momentum. This is the tipping point! Now we've got a movement!
As more people jump in, it's no longer risky. If they were on the fence before, there's no reason not to joinnow. They won't be ridiculed, they won't stand out, and they will be part of the in-crowd, if they hurry. Over the next minute you'll see the rest who prefer to be part of the crowd, because eventually they'd be ridiculed for not joining.
And ladies and gentlemen that is how a movement is made! Let's recap what we learned:
-If you are a version of the shirtless dancing guy, all alone, remember the importance of nurturing your first few followers as equals, making everything clearly about the movement, not you.
-Be public. Be easy to follow!
-But the biggest lesson here - did you catch it?
-Leadership is over-glorified.
-Yes it started with the shirtless guy, and he'll get all the credit, but you saw what really happened:
-It was the first follower that transformed a lone nut into a leader.
-There is no movement without the first follower.
-We're told we all need to be leaders, but that would be really ineffective.
-The best way to make a movement, if you really care, is to courageously follow and show others how to follow.
-When you find a lone nut doing something great, have the guts to be the first person to stand up and join in."
Until my next post - later.
-j.w. godwin
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